If you’ve been around here a while, you know my wife and I had our first child recently.
If you’re a parent you can relate to all the advice we’ve been receiving:
This is how you get him to sleep …
This is how you get him to eat …
This is how you get him to stop crying …
Most of the advice comes from good intentions and we appreciate it, but it’s only so useful when it comes to figuring out our particular baby.
My Baby Isn’t Your Baby
Each one is unique. Guidelines are helpful, but they don’t matter when caring for our son.
We’re learning what it means when he cries. We’re learning what calms him down, what frustrates him.
He’ll continue to evolve from a baby, to a boy, to a teenager, and eventually to a young man.
We’re figuring out how to be his parents today and will also have to evolve with him to be suitable parents to him later
Effort and Time
Just the same, leaders need to spend time learning what their team members need. What makes each person unique?
What motivates one, but frustrates another? How do they receive criticism? What are they looking for long-term? What environment do they need to learn?
What do they need today that they didn’t need in the past, or may not need in the future?
You can try the one-size-fits-all approach, but chances are everyone will be frustrated. You can draw on others’ or your own experience to an extent, but each person is different.
It requires time to understand what makes a person tick and you may need to ask lots of questions.
Leaders of people make time to do this because they understand it’s worth it. It works.